It's OK To Say NO

 

How many times do you agree to a work request because you don't want to say no?

How many times do you agree to a social invite because you don't want to say no?

How many times doI you agree to help a family member, or friend because you don't want to say no?

How easy it is to become a yes person, to do the right thing, or not to disappoint, or not to have to deal with confrontation, or to gain approval or even with the intention to be nice and kind. The pattern of putting others needs ahead of our own can often lead us to overload . It can also develop into such a pattern that we loose sight of what our own needs are. 

Most of us choose to be agreeable, nurturing and caring, but isn't it better to let go of limiting beliefs about what saying no means? 

Saying no means being authentic about what you can honestly manage, saying no means being authentic with what you really want, saying no means having more time to accomplish your own personal goals. 

Let’s remind ourselves the importance of being clear about what we truly want and to set our intentions to seek the right balance between giving to others and giving to self. 

It’s ok to say no. 

The Books that have most inspired me include:

 

The Anatomy Of Peace, Resolving the Heart of Conflict, 

The Arbinger Institute

 

The Surrender Experiment, My journey into Life’s Perfection, 

Michael Singer

 

Man’s Search For Meaning, 

Viktor Frankl

 

When Things Fall Apart, 

Pema Chodron

 

Flourish, A New Understanding of Happiness and Well-Being, 

Martin Seligman

 

Grit, The Power of Passion and Perseverance, 

Angela Duckworth 

 

The Alchemist 

Paulo Coelho

Braving The Wilderness, The quest for true belonging and the courage to stand alone 

Brene Brown

Grief Works, Stories of Life, Death and Surviving

Julia Samuel

Mindfulness for Health, relieving pain, reducing stress and restoring wellbeing

Vidyamala Burch and Danny Penman

 

Finding You, A daily practice for fulfilling your life

Lauren Robinson

 

Me and White Supremacy, How to Recognise your Privilege, Combat Racism and Change the World

Layla F Saad

Please have a listen to my interview on the Adversity to Advantage Podcast by choosing the New Link on the toolbar above.